Resenhas - Of Woman Born

bea 28/12/2021

em inglês pq postei na outra rede primeiro
really enjoyed this read and will probably be obsessing over it for the foreseeable future ? i?ve highlighted, bookmarked and screenshotted so many excerpts. my poor friends had to deal with a lot in our gc as i read it.

anyways, i have thoughts and they are messy! the one thing that keeps me from giving it a full 5 stars is that i got an apologist vibe for maternal abuse to children from this. kinda. let me explain.

i do understand where the anger comes from ? how the institution of motherhood (etc etc) can form resentment, how it can be a ?desperate response from a mother on an invisible attack on her being?.

but guess what? you?re still the adult and that?s still a child. and as someone (w/o getting into details) who was at the receiving end of a mother?s frustration for much of her life? that?s traumatic, hurtful and while i acknowledge that motherhood-the-institution plays a big part on how we got here, at the end of the day, it is what it is: abuse ? verbal, physical, ?just a spanking?. it?s abuse, and coating it with academia doesn?t make it less bad.

it may be the book?s age (my own mother was a child herself when this came out) showing ? but i think, that in order to heal and dismantle this institution, this ?release od frustration? has to be acknowledged as abuse. it needs to be spoken and acknowledged or cycles of it will never be broken & resentment will continue to be passed on from mother to daughter.

anyways. good book. it?s 5:30am.
everyone go to therapy if you can and don?t use systematic oppression to pretend you have no fault in hurting your children.