When people and therapists alike have a problem they can't fix, they call Richard Bandler because he delivers--often with miraculous results. Hailed as one of the greatest geniuses in the field of personal change, and the father of Neuro-Linguistic Programming, Richard Bandler has helped tens of thousands of people around the globe rid themselves of 'incurable' phobias, fears, anxieties, addictions, negative habits, and past traumas'¬ ;often in a single session. Get the Life You Want is Richard Bandler at his best, sharing his remarkable insights, his controversial signature wit, and more than thirty-five time-tested NLP techniques that will bring about quick and lasting change in every area of your life, from breaking free of toxic or non-productive relationships, to delivering business presentations without a knot in your stomach, to quitting smoking for good. By putting Bandler's techniques into practice, you can literally change your brain chemistry without expensive drugs or endless therapy sessions; most of all, you can finally learn how to "run your own brain" instead of rehashing the same problems. You'll discover: How to Hone the Habit of Being Happy Why Thinking Positively Won't Change Your Life. . . And Why Thinking Precisely Will The Fast Phobia Cure That Will Banish Any Fear'¬ ;Including Fear of Flying, Public Speaking, and Heights How to Fall Out of Love with Someone (for Real!) If you're plagued with the past, stuck in a fear, or just unable to get your mental motor running on time, Get the Life You Want will offer a mental toolbox of ways to get your life in order. If you have spent too much time in therapy or too much money trying to do it yourself, this book is for you. The key to quick and lasting change is not only right at your fingertips, it's in your head'¬ ;literally. Get the Life You Want will help you unleash it.
Get the life you want - The Secrets to Quick and Lasting Life Change with Neuro-Linguistic Programming
Richard Bandler, Paul McKenna
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"Fears always have to be replaced with sensory acuity. They also can be tackled by taking control of the feeling itself." "It's a mechanical function because you need to talk to your neurology. You need to tell it what you want it to see, what you want it to feel and whenever it shows you a picture from the past that you don't like, you need to make it an instinct to white it out and to put up a picture from your future of how you want to be." "This is because the way in which people stay in love is much like grief in the sense that what you associate with and what you disassociate from determines how you'll move in the future." "Our ability to associate good feelings with things or bad feelings with things should be a conscious choice. When you redirect your own thoughts, when you decide what memories to associate with and what memories to disassociate with, when you manipulate your thoughts deliberately, it is called thinking. We are thinking beings when we think deliberately. When we let our thoughts just happen to us, we lose our personal freedom." "Taking control of what feels good is an important part of serious determination. It's what gets you through things and getting through things will make life loads better." "It is true for every big event that we organize in life. If you plan cleverly, and you plan on feeling good during the process, that will allow you to get through the challenges much more effectively." "Mental management is what produces productive human beings. Productive people decide, I'm going to spend this time doing this and I'm going to putt my full attention to it. When I come home from work, I'm going to give my full attention to my wife, and then I'm going to give my full attention to my kids, and then to my dog. Then I'm going to devote an hour to spending my full attention on something else. This is for everything from watching TV to pondering on some work issues. Then, you attend fully to talking to your wife, or sleeping, or whatever the task is." "Whenever people are so worried about themselves rather than the feelings of other people, it's easy to get nervous. I told her instead to imagine being at that party and realising that there were people all over that room that were more nervous than she was. I explained that her job was to find them and help them to feel comfortable because if she could make three other people feel comfortable and happy, her fears would disappear forever." "So that not only did he have motivation, he had a plan. The difficulty most people have getting to things is that they have no plan." "Yet, if you can take the image of what produces intense desire in you, and you move the image of you doing taxes into that place, then you will start to feel like doing them. It really is that simple. You have an incredible ability inside your head to manifest the kinds of feelings that you need when you need them." "The difference is, how do you define when to have your stress? If you're going to have it, you might as well do it sooner rather than later. Most people don't plan. Planning is everything. It's about looking into your timeline and deciding when to worry. If you must worry, you might as well do it sooner." "A propulsion system simply means attaching powerfully positive feelings to doing something and attaching powerfully negative feelings to not doing something." "For example, as you already know, you don't always do what you should do but you might do what you need to do. These words are very powerful drivers for your behaviour. When you figure out which ones work best for you, you can begin to use those ones deliberately for when you need them. You will also learn to become aware of the tone and rhythm of your inner voice which most inspires and motivates you." "If you notice the submodalities of something you feel desire for and something you want to feel desire for, move what you want to feel desire for out into the distance and pull it back up in the submodalities of what you do desire. Then you will start to feel desire towards the new activity. This is called a swish pattern." "So, who's beating you up and stopping you from getting on the machine? It must be you!" "If you don't mentally plan, then you're not mentally organized. If you're not mentally organized, then it's harder to create organization on the outside." "They over-plan things. Whenever you over-plan or under-plan you haven't really got a useful plan, so what you need to do is to be able to create a realistic plan. It is a plan that also involves you looking happy and being happy." "If you plan to have good habits, you will and if you don't, you won't." "Always ask how you can be more valuable to the world and prepare to work more effectively than ever before." "You have to decide what it is you enjoy doing. Once you know what you enjoy, you can plan how to get there and do it." "Looking back on what you've read so far, what I have presented here is a variety of ways of organizing your internal world so that you have more control over what your brain does."
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